I’m going to embarrass Dan here. Whilst I love him dearly and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him… he is a useless romantic. Whilst I wait patiently at home in the hope that he’s going to burst through the door with either my favourite take-away, a box of chocolates, or a bottle of wine – he’s just leaving work after spending an extra hour sanding down a foam model. Lovely. He’s riding his bike back from work… he’ll no doubt come through the door all sweaty and horrible – stip down to his undies, dump his dirty clothes on the dining table and noisily gulp down a glass of water and chow down on a man-snack. THIS is not romantic. (And neither is the text offer of a romantic dinner at ‘Spoons for that matter).
I know I’ not alone.
Women all over the World are waiting patiently for their men to woo them. They want to be swept off their feet and taken out for nice food, expensive cocktails and thoughtful conversation. Instead, many of these women are putting up with a night on the lash, a donner kebab and a cheeky fondle in the back of a taxi – if they’re lucky.
So MEN – if you really love your lady and she’s always complaining that you’re ‘not romantic enough’. Read on. You need my help.
A romantic night in
Women know that sometimes money is tight. We don’t care. Romance doesn’t have to cost the Earth – more often not, it’s the thought and attention to detail that counts. First off, make sure she’s out and you know what time she’s coming back – maybe ask a friend to keep her away… Next, clean up and make sure you’re home is as pristine as she likes it – you may cook a nice meal, but if you’ve left your dirty towel on the bathroom floor – well, you might as well not bother cooking at all.
Once your home is how she likes it. Set the table. If it’s in the corner, bring in to the middle of the room and set two seats. Lay out placemats, cutlery, napkins, glasses and candles. Also, light some candles around the room and dim the lights. Add a special touch you know she’s appreciate – like use the ‘nice’ glasses or ‘posh’ crockery. That’ll impress her.
Music wise – keep it relaxed and romantic, but not cheesy. If you’re struggling, I’d always opt for Bonobo. ALWAYS.
Next, you need to cook. Keep it simple and delicate. No ‘man food’ like steak or burger. Cook something like a light pasta dish with salmon, or risotto. Nothing too fussy (and nothing out of a jar – do it from scratch). Make sure you plan a dessert too. If you’re up to making one, try some mini cheesecakes or a chocolate mousse. If not, get something super posh from the supermarket and present it well.
Wine wise. Know what she likes. Red, white or rose. Get something mid priced and read the label – the ‘fruity’ ones are generally easier to drink. If she doesn’t like wine – get her something you know she likes. Put some real thought into it.
Oh and if you want to earn some extra brownie points, get her a present like flowers, chocolates or jewellery.
It’s that easy. Oh and don’t let her do a thing. You pull out her chair, take the dishes through, wash up and EVERYTHING!
Planning a romantic meal out
Every time we eat out, I plan it. Birthday meals. Anniversary meals. The lot. I would love it if Dan could tell me that we were going out, and not tell me where. To take me to a restaurant I’d never been to before, where we’d arrive and be guided to a small table in the corner of a gorgeous restaurant, with a rose and a candle on the table… for amazing wine, delicious food and wonderful music. I’d LOVE that. To know that he’d spent time hunting out somewhere to eat, reading reviews and asking around… and then called to book it, and made a little request.
Instead – I get Weatherspoons. That’s where he’s trying to get me to go out for tea tonight. Can you believe it? That doesn’t make me feel very wooo’ed!
If you want to have a romantic meal out. Do this. Plan it. Think about where you go and make a little request. Go for somewhere that looks nice – where the lighting is dim and the music is atmospheric. Plan the before and after too. Pick her up, flowers in hand, hold her brolly for her, open doors for her, think of somewhere nice to go for drinks afterwards. All of the above plus more.
Seriously. If a woman’s worth keeping – she’s worth wooing. Remember that.
So men, what are you waiting for? Valentines day was months ago – your woman is waiting to be wooooo’d!
Hayley Jayne xx
*Apologies Dan – he’s lovely and thoughtful and perfect in every other way! xx